Have you ever been in a situation where you are having a conversation or even an argument for that matter and all you can think about is getting your point across?
Even if you are silent while the other person is talking or saying their piece, your mind is running over what you are going to say next and how justified it is going to be rather than actually hearing what the other person is saying.
In a conversation not only is this bad manners but, it also means you are not interested enough in the other person to actually listen to what they have to say. If thats the case why even bother having the conversation, let them go and talk to someone who is genuinely interested in them.
In an argument this is even worse, how can you possibly resolve a disagreement when neither of you actually listen to (never mind understand) what the other person is saying?
And if you don't listen or understand, how can you expect the same from them?
And if neither of you is offering an open ear because you are too full of your own self importance, the argument is more likely to continue for longer and the relationship will grow farther apart, then becomes more difficult to reconcile.
Why not just stop for a moment, shut up, and actually hear what somebody else has to say, I mean really listen and take it in. It might surprise you, they might actually be making sense and you may see a solution to your disagreement with less hurt and less time wasted on negative energy.
You never know unless you try!
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